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Our curious dating reporter asks…
What's your best tip for finding someone new on Yahoo! Personals?
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Christopher, 32, New York, N.Y. If you're truly interested, take a moment to post a picture and write some quality descriptive text of yourself. The partner or soul mate of your dreams may happen to be online for only a brief moment at the end of a challenging and uninspiring day looking for the most perfect smile, your smile, to comfort them. Looking for eyes that turn that long day around because something behind those eyes speaks softly and says "Everything is going to be so much more than alright." Don't let that special person be comforted by the smile, words, or eyes of another. |
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Jeremy, 27, Denver Have a picture. Too many people have profiles without a picture. Now in the gay world not everyone is out of the "closet," and putting a picture online would out them (maybe). So I can understand that to a point. However, in the long run, a picture will "net" you many more responses than a pictureless profile ever will. |
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Elaunda, 34, Lithonia, Ga. Be honest on your profile and be open to meeting new people. Even if the person does not meet all your criteria at least chat with them to see where it goes. |
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Alexander, 31, Washington, D.C. Put yourself out there! Go beyond the checkboxes to actually expose part of who you are. We are all looking for someone who has the self-assurance to risk being noticed, and risk being noticed as another multifaceted, imperfect but fascinating person. |
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Monica, 27, Orlando, Fla. Be as picky as you want. I am the pickiest person in the world and I found the person I want to be with. I am a true believer that there is someone for everyone whether or not you want a serious relationship. |
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Jay, 30, Libertyville, Ill. Look for someone good looking and make sure you get more than one picture and that it's recent before you go on a date! Very Scary! |
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Wendy, 35, Lawrence, Kan. Usually you will get tons of results, so don't be shy about putting every single thing that you would be attracted to in the search menu. At the same time, expand the distance you will accept matches from. Isn't it worth it to find the perfect guy/gal even if they live three states away? Use the search criteria to custom tailor what results you get. Don't be afraid to really be specific about what you like and don't like. You can always change the results for more searches, but why not be totally honest about the characteristics that mean the most to you? |
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Brocke, 54, Lakeland, Mo. Actually I have four. First, honesty is the best policy! Be honest and candid with the person you are interested in. Second, don't be afraid to say, here is what I am looking for, what I like, and what I want in a partner. Third, be flexible, don't be so shortsighted that you pass up a good thing. And finally, don't be afraid of being "rejected" or "rejecting" someone. You are not a bad person nor is the other person. All it really means is that you are different from each other. |
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Erin, 25, Santa Monica, Calif. Look for someone who lives within a fifty-mile radius of you. As fun as it is to meet people who live across the country, it's not as realistic to date them. |
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Tim, 41, Springtown, Texas Don't get caught up in using the same search criteria every time. Save searches with differing age ranges, distances and even ethnicities. I don't know how, however by doing this it brings in new faces who are still within your original or wanted search criteria. Be honest with everyone who is interested in you and who you are interested in. There is no need to hold anything back because whatever you are holding back will come out eventually with or without surprises. Hiding or holding something back breaks down the trust factor in the other person and you don't want to blow that right off the bat. So if you think you're too fat, too skinny, unable to carry conversations, an ex-con, you smoke, or whatever trivial but important aspect within, let it out because the spoil in the trust is a much bigger bridge to cross than the possible hurt of rejection. |
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April, 27, El Paso, Texas Be comfortable with yourself. If you are comfortable with yourself as a person then meeting someone on the Yahoo! Personals is fun and easy The most important thing is get to know them as long as you can before you meet one on one. |
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Michael, 37, Lockport, N.Y. Keep trying until you find the right person. Sometimes it is better to meet live and in person a little sooner as it is still necessary to find out if there is that all-important spark. No spark no fire -- no heat, no desire. |
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Andy, 30, Aurora, Ill. Use the View Similar Profiles option. You should be able to find many other matches to the profile that you liked in the past. |
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Francisco, 26, Pontiac, Mich. Be yourself and not try to fake. Also, the best thing anybody can do when chatting is to type exactly as you would talk to the person. Use expressions, and good punctuation, grammar, most important, use spontaneity and wit! Usually the fact that the person is not physically in front of you helps you even more to break the ice. However, it gives even more importance to how well you express yourself when you type. This works wonders to make a connection someone. If they read " you, ...me, man...woman....coffee?" they wouldn't be too impressed now, would they? |
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Jabu, 33, Seattle, Wash. The best way to meet like-minded matches is to focus on writing a profile that is concise and to the point. Now we all know that men, being visual, rarely read them (sorry guys!). However the right match for you will pay attention to those details and refer to them when they email you. It's a great way to start the screening process for all of the responses you'll get! |
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